Changing From Within
Changing from within is a process I always recommend to people who are in a undesirable situation. You know that saying, “change starts from within?” Well, it’s true. In order to really get the changes you want in life you will have to start placing all the responsibility on yourself for what happens to you. As you begin this life long change you will start to notice how life itself starts to change for the better. Furthermore, you’ll soon find you will never find yourself dealing with the same situations again, because you changed the part of yourself that was drawing those situations to you. Lastly, as you realize that changing from within is all you have to do in life, you will become a powerful person and always change from within, when faced with an undesirable situation.
If You Don’t Change Then Things Stay The Same.
The saying, “change starts from within” is very real because it rests upon the basic laws of The Universe. When you change how you think, you then change how you behave, and then your results change. Your thoughts govern everything that takes place in your life. This is called The Law of Attraction. Your thoughts are nothing more than vibrations that cause a certain set of circumstances to unfold in your life in a very systematic way. This is why the saying, “everything happens for a reason” is so true. Lets take a look at how one’s thoughts can systematically affect one’s life with this example:
Bob always thought that people were jealous of him at work. He would always get glares, or some other form of hostility at his place of work. He always would think to himself, “Man all these people are losers who know I’m all that and a bag of chips. They hate me because I’m so good.” Later that year Bob got the transfer he wanted to a different department. He was overjoyed because he just knew he could finally leave all the so called jerks behind and be around people who recognized his greatness. When Bob started working in the new department everything started out going fine. People seemed to genuinely like him, but then something happened. Bob’s mind started going back to when people would send him glares and be mean to him in the office. Since Bob’s brain is like any other human brain it was unable to tell the difference between what it was thinking about and the present reality. Bob’s protection mechanisms begin to become activate. He started pushing people away, and he started holding a mean look on his face all the time. He would bury himself in work and avoid office get togethers. He would be so buried in what he was doing he would not notice people trying to say “hi” or be nice to him. People started noticing Bob’s behavior, and even though he was doing excellent work they thought he was a snob. They thought that Bob wasn’t reaching out to them because he didn’t like them. Bob then started seeing the same reactions he was getting from people he used to work with. His thoughts/fears were now becoming a reality. He couldn’t figure out what he could have been doing wrong. All he could this was “I’m a victim of these horrible people who know how good I am but won’t accept it. They are just jealous.” Deep down Bob just wanted things to go well, but couldn’t see that he was the problem.
As you can see Bob’s thoughts had gotten the better of him. They ended up affecting his behavior, and then he started getting the same results all over again. It wouldn’t matter if Bob transferred to another country. The results would still be the same if he continued to think and behave in the way that he did. Bob thought that everyone else was a jerk, but he refused to see the biggest jerk of all! Bob was the jerk that ended up attracting all that hostility on himself. He was unable to see that he needed to change so things ended up staying the same for him. For many people they have to go through a lot of suffering before they can honestly look at themselves. However, you don’t have to wait until you’re on your last leg before you make a change.
Taking Responsibility
When a person takes responsibility for their life they are able to see that they are at the center of their life, and everything they are receiving whether good or bad is directly due to the energy they are putting out. They don’t blame others for what is going wrong. They know that if they simply change the energy they are putting out they will get different results. If Bob had been able to see that “the buck started with him” then he might have been able to change things for himself at his work. If he had first changed the thoughts that were going through his head, then his behavior would shift, and then the results would ultimately change.
If you are attempting to change an undesirable situation in your life you must first realize it starts with your thoughts. Your thoughts are everything, and realizing that is a big key to life. A person could try to change his behavior and not change his thoughts and eventually he would revert back to old behavior patterns, and probably see little change anyway. Think of your thoughts as the core, or root. If you don’t change or get rid of the negative thought, the same things will start to resurface. Any person who has worked in a garden knows that if you don’t pull up the weed’s root then it will resurface. You hear in biblical text, “You reap what you sow” and it’s very true as you can see. Think of your thoughts as seeds.
Going about changing your thoughts is a relatively simple process. (And it’s good you believe it to be a simple process, because you will then attract more results that make it simple!) You simply take the undesirable situation you’re in, and accept the fact that you don’t like what’s taking place. Don’t dwell on it. Just acknowledge that you don’t like what is going on. (This way you haven’t denied the problem. You’ve just acknowledged something is wrong.) After you’ve done this, try to think about what it is you would like to start see happening. You might have to ask yourself, “What would I like to see happen?” From there I want you to dwell upon the answer you get. Gently focus your mind around the vision of what you would like to see happen. It’s important you do this as much as you can throughout the day. If you do this enough your behavior will change on a subtle level in response to the thoughts you are thinking. When this happens the results will start to change as well. Give yourself some time and you will be blown away at how easy this whole thing becomes!
Life Changes As You Change
As you begin this life long change you will soon start to notice life changing around you. Why is this? Because you are leaving behind a victim-type energy that said your happiness was in the hands of everyone else. You are now saying that your happiness is within you, and all you have to do is identify the parts of your life you don’t like, and then start focusing on what it is you’d like to start see happening. Thoughts are energy and when you change the thought you change the energy. When you change this energy you begin to change yourself! You become the change that was so necessary in your life! As you might have guessed all the power resides within you. You have complete control over the circumstances you are lining up with in life. It’s like a math equation and you have complete control over the equation that is on your side. If you change the number, then the end result will change. If you keep your focus on yourself (your number) then you will always be in your power and be able to manifest the results you want to see in your life.
I have a client who took my advice and started to apply it. He realized that he had to change himself before he would get results. Lets take a look at his story. (I changed his name for confidentiality purposes):
Chris was a foreign exchange student from the Netherlands. At the time he was going to school at a college in the United States. He had always had problems with girls and his other classmates. He always felt as if he wasn’t respected. He felt that everyone just saw him as a foreigner and didn’t really give him the time of day. He found himself frustrated and felt badly about himself, and even started feeding into all the jokes. Even though he would laugh along he would still feel hurt inside. One day he came to me seeking advice. He asked me, “Ezra how can I get these people at my school to respect me?” I told him that would be a simple process. First, all he had to do was accept that it was something on his part that was causing the problem. (It’s not that he needed to feel guilty. Just accept that something he was doing was causing a certain result.) Next he was to tell himself daily that he had a deep value, and that everyone sees it. Even if he didn’t believe that affirmation at first. I told him to say it anyway. Then I told him to sit down with himself daily and ask himself, “What would I like to see happen?” I told him to focus on the answers he got. I told him to do this for two weeks diligently. I also told him to notice how his behavior changes. He followed the instructions.
After two weeks he returned to me with good news. He told me that all of his classmates were praising him. Always telling him what a wonderful person he was. He also reported that he had a girl who was interested in dating him. Furthermore, Chris said that he noticed that his actions changed as well. He no longer laughed with the jokes about him, and then the jokes stopped. (People noticed he didn’t like them.) He started to carry himself in a different way as well. Not with an attitude, but in a way of someone who deserved respect. People started responding accordingly. It was an amazing thing. I then went on to explain that it was the energy that he changed within himself that changed the outside circumstances. He was at the root of his problem the whole time, and within him dwelled the answer! Chris has been doing well ever since. In his place of work he is one of the top earners in his field.
As you can see Chris ended up taking responsibility for his problems by first coming to me for advice. He had acknowledged that something was wrong, and then was able to accept that it was himself that needed to start doing things differently. Some people go an entire lifetime thinking that everyone else is the cause of their woes, when it is they themselves. However it’s always the other way around. We have always, and shall forever remain the creators of our destinies! As we change ourselves, life around us will change. Always keep this in mind when faced with an undesirable situation.
Problem Solved For Good
Yup, it’s true. Once you’ve started changing from within, the problem you faced before is gone for good. It’s not to say you won’t come across other hurdles in your life. However this particular hurdle is forever removed. (Unless somehow you revert back to old behavior which would be a result of old thinking. Then you really didn’t get to the core/root and change it.) Why is this so? Because you’ve changed the math equation on your end. You have complete control on what you think. When you change your thinking the thing your thinking about changes. That’s where all of your power dwells. It’s on your end. I always tell people whenever you find yourself frustrated at life or at someone else then you’ve forgotten you’re playing a game, and the rules to the game. In whatever undesirable situation you find yourself in, understand that the real problem is yourself. This doesn’t mean you have to feel guilty about anything. Actually don’t feel guilty about anything. Feeling guilty would only cause you not to change, because in the mire of guilty feelings, nothing productive takes place. Look at yourself rationally and change your thoughts. Then your behavior will change and then you will manifest new results. Once you’ve done this the problem is gone for good. Congratulations!
You Are Evolving
We as a human species are evolving into enlightened masters of our lives as time goes on. What is taking place as you start to make this change is the very definition of what it means to be enlightened. (At least in my book.) Be patient with all of this because it takes time. Sometimes in the heat of the moment you’ll find yourself wrestling with anger (see Anger vs. Peace) and it might get the best of you. Don’t beat yourself up about it when it happens. Eventually, what I can promise you is that you will rise up. You will begin to evolve passed many of your life hurdles and you will experience long bouts of prosperity in your life, in all its forms – love, money, spirituality. Taking responsibility for your change is like taking total responsibility for your life, and for the world because change starts with you! If everyone would do it, this planet would take on an entirely new dimension.
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