Having a Spiritual Love Relationship
A spiritual relationship between two lovers is one that is based in the deep love of each other and one’s own self. In a spiritual relationship, both individuals understand that problems can be worked out from within. Unfortunately, most of today’s relationships are based off of expectation and obligation. Most couples find themselves arguing and forcing their own baggage on each other. They attempt to get the other one to change when it is they themselves that need to change from within to get the results they are looking for. I’ve come to find that in order to have a long lasting relationship it is imperative that changes are made from within. In this article I’ll discuss what is necessary on your part to have the loving relationship you’re looking for. This is intended for people who are already in a relationship; however, if you aren’t in one right now it’s still good information to know.
Changing from Within
In order to obtain anything of value in life, changes from within are always necessary. We have to be at a certain level to have certain situations and things in our life. A relationship is no different. In order to have an outstanding mate, you too must be an outstanding person. If you find yourself constantly running into problems with your mate then I want you to ask yourself these simple questions:
What am I offering up in this relationship that is causing the problem?
You don’t need to feel guilty about anything you’ve done, because guilt will just block you from rationally looking at how you’ve contributed to the situations you keep finding yourself in with your mate. Instead just think of yourself as a scientist who is attempting to figure out an equation. Every equation always ends up with the SAME result. We are all like math equations and when you change up what your throwing in the pot you change up the result.
What would bring me the most joy in this relationship?
It’s important for you be honest with yourself on this question because after you come up with the answer I want you to visualize it for 1 or 2 minutes a day. I guarantee you if you keep doing this you will start seeing results. If you find your mind wondering back to thoughts of frustration with your mate I want you to go back to this vision. The mind has a way of attracting to itself what it thinks about. You would be wise to do this on a daily basis.
Have I made an honest attempt to really see what the other is going through?
If your answer to this question is “yes, but I’m going through things too.” Then you need to first tend to yourself and your own issues. What you are really saying is that you want them to put you before themselves, and you to put them before yourself. That is codependency. While codependency has its place in the evolution of a human being, it cannot be present within a spiritual relationship. Codependency requires expectation and obligation to be forced upon each individual in the relationship. When one does not act as expected it causes the other to get upset. That is not love.
Do I need this person in my life or do I want to enjoy them because they are truly wonderful?
One should never need anyone in a relationship. While having some needs is perfectly fine, the majority of the relationship should be based on enjoyment. Both parties should deeply enjoy the company of each other and want to be around each other simply because of that.
Do I believe that this person can never change and this situation will always be this frustrating?
I always like to tell people that, “You will always get what you believe strongly in.” If deep in your heart you believe that this person will remain the same, then you will forever find yourself in the same situations with that person, when someone else might not otherwise. It’s actually the negative beliefs inside you that are provoking the situations to take place outside you. So my advice is that if you find the person you’re with to be frustrating, then try to change how you look at them. Like the saying goes, “If you change how you look at something, then what you’re looking at will change.” It works just like that!
These questions will get you headed down a great path when it comes to relationships. There are lots more questions I could have added, however these are some of the best. I also recommend reading relationship advice books. It’s important that you take the time to read what other people say and then come to your own conclusions. Try to go with advice that resonates with you instead of taking advice that makes you feel guilty. In the long run, you’ll get better results I guarantee it. Why? Because when advice resonates with you it means it feels right and it makes sense to you. This means it can be applied properly. Taking advice that doesn’t resonate with you means you’re just doing it because you “think it’s the right thing to do.” You won’t be able to stick with advice very long that doesn’t make sense to you. Your mind will eventually revert back to old habits. Go with your flow instead.
Think about the qualities you love in your mate.
In order for you to get more of the qualities you like in your partner it’s important that you put more emphasis on it through your mind. If you entertain more thoughts of loving experiences, you will start seeing more of that take place in your life. All of this is due to the Law of Attraction. Which states that what you think most about you will get. Too often I find people focusing on all the qualities they dislike in life and then wonder why they are getting what they are getting. If you see your mate as the problem they will be that. If you see them as a wonderful asset they will become that for you.
Try to come up with five qualities you love about your mate. If you can’t come up with any then start making some up. You’ve got to start somewhere. Why? Because you will literally head in the direction that you are focused on. If you start to focus on some positive qualities from your partner you will start to receive more of that.
We model our relationships off of what see from our parents.
If you have a highly dysfunctional relationship, then the chances are high that your parents had one too. You may need to start changing your beliefs on what a relationship is. The mind will start to make up its own beliefs based on what it can see and if left unchecked it can start to have some pretty toxic beliefs (that is if you were raised in a toxic environment). If you can simply start to entertain the idea that a perfect relationship is possible you will start to see changes with your mate.
Conclusion
The spiritual relationship is a very obtainable goal for everyone. It takes a higher level of consciousness to even start to gravitate in the direction of it. So I would pat yourself on the back that you have come this far, and I recommend you keep going. Remember it’s best that you just keep on developing yourself. Your mate will eventually come around, or maybe they won’t. However, once you change, you will never find yourself in the same situation again. That’s my promise to you.
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