Anger vs. Peace
One of the coolest lessons I’ve learned over this lifetime is that being a saint is not always the best way to handle people and situations in life. I have come to find that it’s more or less about obtaining balance in one’s life. Sometimes anger is called for and can even be beneficial in taking someone in the direction they are looking to go in their lives. Though this is a choice that can only be determined on a case by case basis. I am a strong advocate of letting the anger out of one’s system EARLY on before it gets out of hand and then moving to a more peaceful attitude as quickly as possible. You’ll find that if you just naturally be yourself the anger bouts will be very brief and extremely rare and even beneficial.
Lets face it, we have all been in situations where we have felt trapped. Where we were consciously in a place where we saw no options what so ever. You could basically say you were knocked up against the wall and cornered by whatever it was you were dealing with. It could have been a frustrating person, or situation. Whatever it was, peaceful methods just weren’t getting the job done. ( At least all the peaceful methods you knew of at the time. ) So what ended up being your method of getting out of it? I’ll tell you what it was for me. It was ANGER. I stopped feeling guilty and I got ANGRY. I got angry with myself, the people the situation and anything I could be angry at. I did all kinds of cussing, and screaming. I let my voice be heard to all of the frustrating people I found myself around at the time. ( I was right out of high school at the time. ) After all of that, I found myself feeling GREAT RELIEF.
However, before I got to getting angry I was in the place that many of you find yourselves sometimes. Trying to be a peaceful saint when surrounded by people, and circumstances who don’t respond to your peaceful methods. Now if you were like me at the time, you might not have a lot of methods in your toolbox to handle things peacefully. Because don’t get me wrong- there are actually a whole lot more productive methods out there and ANGER should be the very last thing to be resorted to. However, when you find yourself boiling up to the point that you start losing sleep over it. Something has to be done my friend. The best way is to just let it all out. Get angry. Most of all at yourself for allowing yourself to put up with the mess for so long, but also let the person your angry at have it. I’M NOT TALKING ABOUT PHYSICAL VIOLENCE. That’s just silly. I’m saying just unload all the crap you can WITHOUT BEING ABUSIVE and then start focusing on ways to start having more happiness in your life. After you have unloaded you’ll find it easier to be in a place of productivity.
Its extremely rare in my life to respond to a situation or person with any kind of anger only because I’ve reached such a point where I know how to deal with most things in a clear cut approach that works nearly 99% of the time. However, for the little 1% when I do respond with anger it’s always extremely beneficial. Why is this? Well there are many reasons for this. #1 Anger is an energy and if allowed to fester it can cause a whole host of problems such as, health issues, poor interaction with others, and attract more situations to be angry about. #2 If a person lingers in the feelings of anger for to long they risk falling into the next emotional low which is GUILT. Guilt comes from not resolving the issue the person is angry about, and also from blaming themselves for too long about why their life situation is the way it is. There are other reasons guilt shows up in a person’s life too, but this is what festering anger usually does. Guilt is the worst possible emotion someone could possibly experience because its telling the Universe that you are an undeserving person. When you literally feel undeserving its very rare that anything worthwhile will stay in your life or gravitate to you. Why should it? You’re feeling undeserving. I’ve also noticed that many people find themselves feeling guilty because they are angry, and I say that’s just silly! Why? Because there is absolutely nothing wrong with how your feeling at any given moment. All you are trying to do is make sense of everything with the knowledge and power you currently have in your present state. To feel guilty about feeling angry is basically telling yourself your wrong for being who you presently are.
So you can see why its important to just go ahead and let the anger out earlier on IF you have no other methods of dealing with the situation. After you let the anger out, you can at least expect for yourself to feel some RELIEF. With relief comes a peace of mind and rejuvenation can at least start to begin. Also, after you release all the anger you are now in a much better place to start learning about what just happened, and thus become more empowered from your past experience.
Resorting to anger is also a case by case thing. Only you can decide if anger is the best method to use for your situation. Again, this is not about VIOLENCE. That will obviously get you into a lot of trouble and I’m not talking about abuse here. I’m talking about just letting it all out by either letting the person know how all this makes you feel. You can do this either through words or writing them down. ( I personally like writing it down. )
Try using the following to help you gauge whether anger is the best approach for you:
-Have you tried praying or meditating about the situation? Both methods are extremely effective for relaxing the mind and getting oneself in touch with higher levels of consciousness.
-Have you utilized every peaceful action you could possible use for your situation?
-Are you constantly thinking about the frustrating situation all the time? Losing sleep over it?
-Are you starting to feel guilty about everything that is transpiring?
After you’ve determined whether or not anger is the best course of action for you to take, I want you to remember this. ALWAYS seek even more enlightenment in tools/methods that help you stay in a peaceful vibration. Why is that? Because resorting to anger ALL the time IS detrimental and you’d end up making things worse for yourself in the long run. You see when you let all of your anger out the energy is no longer pent up in your system. You now have the opportunity to move up the emotional scale to emotions such as peace and bliss. That’s where you want to head and that’s where you want to stay. Remember that, and good luck.
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